RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

Communication skills can make or break relationships – at home, in the workplace, community, nation and the world.

     When you make an effort to improve communications, it can go from falling apart when conflict arises to peaceful, compassionate, meaningful, creative conversations.

     We will understand and practice Transactional, Assertive, Compassionate and Creative Communication skills to help you have better relationships in your family, with co-workers, neighbors and friends.

Work is one of the most important things in a person’s life. It is important to find your right place in the work workplace. 

     Many people work in very stressful jobs that can lead a person to using addictive substances and processes to lower the stress they feel.  It is not uncommon to turn to too much drinking and food to provide relief and comfort from stress.

     The #metoo movement is symptomatic of dysfunctional workplaces, lack of respectful communication, and unhealthy relationships.

     In the Work-Life Wellness Program we will explore policies and programs used to create work-life balance, tips for personal work-life wellness, the Eight Dimensions of Wellness, having harmony with money, and discover how to renew, refresh, and revive your feelings and career.

Barns were raised by neighbors.  It used to take a village to raise a child properly.  

     Yet today, rather than connecting people, social media can pull people apart, inflame social conflict and create divisiveness - just when we need to work together to solve national and world problems.  With enough money, or social services, people may not need neighbors anymore to help them.  When people are not neighborly, what is a neighborhood?  What Is the value in society of being affirming, neighborly and friendly?  

     With so much social divisiveness, conflict and personal trauma, learn why it is important, and how to be affirming, friendly and kind, in a wise way.  Learn why it is important to be friendly beyond the December holiday season. Rediscover the value of being friendly, giving people a chance, and being encouraging, positive, motivating and enthusiastic.  Let your friendliness warm up cool relationships to help people be more authentic, sincere, trusting and reliable.  Learn how to have healthy, loving friends to enjoy life together. 

Would you like to be part of a weekly Community Conversation Club? It would be on a weekday or night. Join Sandy Hinden, author of 7 Keys to Love and facilitator of the Saturday Night Conversation Club in Huntington Village, and learn how he formed a conversation club four years ago to help people learn conversation skills, become less isolated, and be more social. 

     A recent study in Britain found 75% of people were not friendly with neighbors. We need to help people have skills of conviviality, friendliness and cordiality for people to feel wellness.  Become part of the regular group. Attend when you can. Tell your friends.  Make a friend.  Enjoy life more with people in the community.    

     In your Conversation Club people enjoy thoughtful conversation on timeless topics and current events.  Share your experiences, opinions, feelings, values and needs, and be listened to respectfully.  

     Welcome curiosity, wonder and a positive sense of humor as you discuss topics such as friendship, family, society, politics, relationships, sex, good luck, wealth care, health care, addictions, compassion, mindfulness, meditation, wisdom, humor, positivity, peace, science, ethics, the environment, technology, travel, creativity, the arts, motivation and more. 

     It is a great place to learn from each other’s knowledge and experience, share some humor and have some fun!  In a time with deep divisions in the world, you can feel better when you relax and listen deeply to each other.  Meet regularly for friendship, warmth, belonging, community, creativity, meaning and intellectual stimulation. Make friends and try to make sense of the world – one topic at a time! 

     I encourage you to start your own Community Conversation Club!!   You can see more here...

In the last Harry Potter movie J.K. Rowling wrote, "Don't pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living and, above all, pity those without love." The Dalai Lama has said, "Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."  Over 35 years, Sandy Hinden studied the many facets of love including: illusory love; self-love; friendly love; couple and romantic love; family, filial love, love for parents and the elderly; altruistic, platonic, community love; love for culture and nature; love for life and love for the world; and agape, cosmic, universal love for the source and the creation. He will read from his book 7 Keys to Love, share what he has learned about love, compassion and kindness, and answer questions you may have on one of life's great mysteries: Love.    

People have the need to be in loving relationships. Right? Right! Built into all people is the capacity to enjoy sexual warmth and passion. Unfortunately, probably 90 percent of people are not in a healthy, loving relationship where they can enjoy sexual warmth and passion. 

     In a society that has 90 percent of adults without the capacity for healthy sexual expression, the market place is willing to fulfill peoples' sexual needs and urges for a fee.  Prostitution is said to be the oldest profession.  Today, we also have massage parlors with happy endings, strip clubs, and 24/7 pornography that generates more revenue than Hollywood.  

     Healthy, loving relationships are only sustainable based on the capacity to have compassionate communication that allows people to understand and express their feelings, needs, values and what they wish for, want and prefer. We don’t teach people how to communicate compassionately in schools, so teenagers become adults, and for the ones that get married, 50% of first, 60% of second, and 70% of third marriages fail. 

     So, why don’t we just face reality, and help young people learn to communicate compassionately?  Schools have a responsibility to teach young people how to communicate.  Let's talk about this openly.   See more here...

Only 32 percent of employees in the U.S. are engaged in their work, with 51 percent unengaged and 17 percent actively disengaged.  That means close to 70% of people don't like the work they are doing.  It is very important for you to continue to try to understand your work-life, and how to improve it.  I went through many career changes into different fields until I found something I liked to do and could do well.  I learned much along the way and would be happy to share a process you can use to find work you can enjoy.  The chart above is a 9 step process that can help you understand where  you are now, and need to be in your career development process.  

First we will increase your ability to enjoy yourself based on your being compassionate, forgiving, kind and loving with yourself, and taking good care of yourself each day.  

     Then we practice the basics of Compassionate Communication to help you understand your thoughts, feelings, values and needs.  

     We will practice understanding and setting healthy boundaries and limits, and keeping them.  

     If you want to practice this with a partner, we will then increase your ability to sustain a loving relationship based on self-love, self-care and Compassionate Communication.  You will now understanding your the feelings, values and needs of your partner, make reasonable, respectful requests for what you would like and prefer, and consider if others’ requests are healthy for you. 

     This creates a world of inner peace, kindness and wellness for you to sustain healthy relationships with a partner, family and friends.