Help for Men who are Hurt, Angry, Sad or Lonely

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• We are all shocked each time another young or older man kills people in a school, office or the community. 
• In reality, mass shootings drive headlines and political responses, but they comprise only 2 percent of gun deaths
• Every year in our country, a firearm is used in nearly 500,000 crimes, resulting in the deaths and injuries of more than 110,000 people. 
• I estimate men commit at least 95% of these crimes.
• Each year, almost 45,000 Americans die by suicide. 
• Men die by suicide 3.5 times more than women. 
• 35,000 men a year take their lives because they are hurt, angry, sad or lonely, or with no community resources to help them find solutions to their problems.  
• About 20 veterans a day (7,300 per year) across the country take their own lives, with about 97 percent of suicides of veterans being men in states that reported gender.   

THE PROBLEM:
Contributing factors to men committing harm to others or themselves: 

1. Not in a healthy, loving relationship with a significant other to be comforted  and encouraged. 
2. Not having healthy, compassionate friends to be able to communicate setbacks, disappointments and serious losses.
3. Unable to voice his feelings and needs. 
4. Isolated and feeling lonely or disconnected from others and society. 
5. Feeling resentful or humiliated and wanting to seek revenge.
6. Having access to guns. 
7. Having experience using guns.
8. Not valuing other’s feelings and needs.
9. Not wishing to continue to live to seek to solve problems, and to live peacefully and happily with others.
10. Confused, negative, delusional thinking.     

THE SOLUTION

The Help for Men Program 

1. Improving your thinking, feelings, habits, routines and life pattern.  
2. Stop isolating.  Socializing and developing healthy, compassionate, encouraging friends.
3. Developing communication skills to be able to express your observations, feelings, values, needs, and what you would like, in a clear, direct and respectful way.
4. Developing healthy friends, sharing any setbacks, disappointments and losses, and receiving comfort and encouragement from them.
5. Gaining encouragement to solve-problems to improve your life and situations.
6. Accepting feedback from others who are constructive, and continuing to learn, grow and improve.  
7. Comforting and encouraging others when they need it. 

I am now providing the five skills, full-day Help for Men program sponsored by organizations  and individuals who are helpful to families and communities.   

The program includes skills for men in: 

• Anger Management
• Communication & Relationships
• Mindful Meditation for Peace, Happiness & Wisdom
• Self-Regulating Your Thoughts & Feelings 
• Meaningful, Purposeful Living

Program organizers would also provide snacks and lunch.  

So many men are hurt, angry, sad and lonely.  If I can help the men in your community, please let me know. 

If you have any questions, feel free to call or text me on 516-815-4967, or email me at info@sanfordhinden.com.  

You can save the Help for Men who are Hurt, Angry, Sad or Lonely  program  proposal here.

Q.   Can the Help For Men program be presented internationally?

A.   If someone knows a sponsoring organization or individual who would fund it, I can provide this program internationally online. My presentation is not provocative or challenging.  It teaches 5 skills that can improve a person's life greatly.   It could be presented in 5 one hour sessions: 

1. Anger Management
2. Communication & Relationships
3. Mindful Meditation for Peace, Happiness & Wisdom
4. Self-Regulating Your Thoughts & Feelings 
5. Meaningful, Purposeful Living

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Q.  Is the Help For Men program for war veterans with PTSD?

A.   It depends on the severity of the PTSD and the stability of the person. The person would have to be stable enough to not be upset frequently. The local sponsoring organization would have to do the screening of the participants and also provide personnel in the room incase someone is upset. My presentation is not provocative or challenging.  It teaches 5 skills that can improve a person's life greatly:  

1. Anger Management
2. Communication & Relationships
3. Mindful Meditation for Peace, Happiness & Wisdom
4. Self-Regulating Your Thoughts & Feelings 
5. Meaningful, Purposeful Living

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